Okay, so my a$$ randomly came across a new website called Elitedaily thanks to Guyism. Don’t come for me saying I’m “late” or anything like that, I’m good.
Anyway, I found an article that lists 10 things women need to come to grips with for 2013. There were two things on this list that had me widen my eyeballs.
1. Have more orgasms
Women are always given mixed message on how to be a lady. On the one hand, everyone makes fun of “promiscuous” girls like Superhead, Kat Stacks, or Melissa Ford.
And on the other hand, everyone looks at you like you’ve lost your mind when you’re not having sex by choice. I can’t even begin to tell you how many times guys have said to me, “You need d#$%” or that I need a “one night stand.”
I’m not even going to put it on dudes alone, because women do that too. There was a time I went to my lady doctor, aka OBGYN, and her eyes nearly fell out of her sockets when she heard me say that I’m not having any relations. She then said that I should be having ‘fun’ and that she was having a blast with her cootie cat when she was my age. I was stunned. Here I am getting my pap smear and she’s telling me to embrace the concept of promiscuity. If anything, I thought she would say “That’s good you’re not having relations because you have a lesser chance of contracting STD’s or having an unwanted pregnancy.” Nope, her reaction was the complete opposite.
Why does everyone want women having sex 24/7? Can a shorty be celibate or abstain in peace tho?
Sure, there are benefits to having an orgasm but that sexin’ lifestyle doesn’t need to be shoved down the throats of women. We’ll have sex when we want to, bruh.
2. You don’t have to be in a relationship to be happy.
This is bull because no one wants to let a woman live if she doesn’t have a man!
I’ve had many a girlfriend who were perfectly fine being single until they were with family members or friends. Women always have to deal with the ‘why aren’t you seeing someone’ drill at public gatherings. This is especially the case after college, even if your mother or aunt raised her kids alone. I think the real headline should be, “Dear F#$%rs Leave Single Women Alone, They’re Happy.”
Men too, they give women the third degree too when they come across a pretty face who is man free. The convo goes a little something like this; Random man: “Ayo shorty, you look good. I know you’ve got to have a man taking that down every night.” Answer: “No, I’m single.” Random man: “Dang, why not though? You should be out dating with your boyfriend. Why are you single?”
These conversations are annoying as hell when you’re perfectly fine with the choice to be testicle free. You’re now left staring at a guy you may or may not know very well waiting for an answer.
I think society should find a way to accept women who are single. Don’t judge a lady for her choice to be single. Also, for the love of bunnies, don’t ask her why she doesn’t have a man either. Don’t.
But, there was one thing that I f$^&ed with from this article. The fifth item on the list had this bit of advice: “Women have a tendency to date men similar to the one who hurt them the most. Don’t fall into this trap. Stand up for yourself and know that your standards must change.” ß This is a hard topic to grip but it’s true. I used to deal with serious assholes and the minute I realized I needed to stop things got better. Now, I’m dealing with a whole new batch of unsolicited obnoxious idiots. Life is great.
Thanks for rocking with me and share this article with your friends whether they are team estrogen or team testosterone.
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